Orgasm?? Tell Me About It!

Dear Readers

I am a 27 year old secretary and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. We met at the university where he was then a teaching assistant. We remained friends until 2 years ago when we decided to take the relationship to the next level because of the genuine love between us. He is just a few years older than I am. He is a very hardworking, intelligent, kind and a handsome gentleman. In fact he is everything I ever want in man and we love each other very much. We even have plans of getting married soon.

You might be wondering what the problem is then.... Hmmm….

About a month ago my company held its annual staff durbar. I had gone to the bathroom to do girls stuff and I was just about finishing when I heard voices around the sink area. They were giggling too. They were about 3 girls. At first I paid no attention to their conversation until I heard sex. They were talking about their sexual experiences and how amazing it was. I decided to wait a while longer in the cubicle and hear all they had to say about the act.  They said “the climax” is out of this world. An orgasm I have never had.

 My boyfriend was my first and though I was new to the act I always knew something was missing. Being with him doesn’t come close to what the girls in the washroom described and since I haven’t been with anyone else there is no one to compare him to. I drew the conclusion that sex was overrated and not as exciting as described in those romantic novels. I have also been too shy about the subject; I can’t ask my friends about it. I love my man very much but how can I marry and be pregnant and go through the pain of labour without even knowing the joy in sex!

Honestly I have been thinking of seeking a second opinion by being with another man just to experience what sex other than with my boyfriend feels like. Do you think I should?  What will I do with my boyfriend if sex with someone else proves to be different? Break it off with him?  And what if I still feel nothing even with a new man? Is there anything wrong with me for not enjoying sex? Could it also be that my boyfriend and I are not sexually compatible? Do I go ahead and marry him knowing I will never know the pleasure of sex with him? What do I do?